Victoria Tutor

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Thank You

Many people don’t understand the relationship my father and I have, but I want to give you all a glimpse into my life with the best mentor, friend, and dad I could never have dreamed of having. He’s taught me so many genuine life lessons whether good or bad, he’s kept me safe for almost eighteen years, he’s allowed me to grow as a person with no boundaries, and he’s been there for me when I truly thought I was alone in this world. He strived to find a daughter to adopt to make my mom happy, he chose me, and then he ended up falling in love with me (at least I hope so). I truly believe that I am the luckiest girl in the world to be able to call Phillip Tutor my dad. 

I may not share the same DNA and physical qualities as my dad, but our personalities are just about spot on. My dad and I have always gotten into trouble, whether with my mom or family or our own personal friend groups. We have also always found a way out of it. My dad and my favorite game to play is who can push the limits the farthest until mom gets mad. This past summer, we went to St. Louis to take my senior pictures in Busch Stadium. At this point in time, we were obsessed with flipping birds at each other. I cannot tell you how hard it was to weed through our pictures to find a decent one with no middle fingers in the air. 

Although my dad and I are able to joke around and make life fun, sometimes we have to be serious. The most heartbreaking moment in our relationship happened just recently. I was spending the night at a friend’s house and I woke up to a text from him at about seven o’clock asking me to come home. I thought I was in trouble because, usually, my dad has an understanding that I don’t wake up before twelve on the weekends. However, this felt urgent. As I got home and walked to the porch my dad sat me down, cried, and told me he had been diagnosed with clinical depression and bipolar disorder since before I was adopted. Hearing that come out of my dad’s mouth and having never realized really made me value the relationships I have today, and I always make sure I check up on the people who bring me the most happiness in life. 

I have learned so much in my seventeen years on this planet. Things like how to throw different pitches in baseball, how to take the embroidery out of a hat, how to play one note on the guitar, and how to always make people feel loved and appreciated. My dad has taught me all of those things and so much more whether he will admit it or not. It is so hard for me to express my love for him because there is simply too much of it. My father and I have grown together as people and together in our relationship and I wouldn’t trade it for the world. I have always been his biggest fan as he has always been mine; that’s why I have his jersey number tattooed on my body forever. The man you’ve learned a little bit about in this essay has been a rock every time I needed him to be. He has shown me what it feels like to love, hurt, and be on your own. He has taught me to always fight for what I want and to never give up. I love him with everything in me, and I can only hope that you are able to experience the same kind of relationship that my father and I have formed in only seventeen years. 

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